Real
Life Astrology: Aquarius
January 20th - February
18th
© Maria
DeSimone
I have a secret to tell you about my mother. How shall I put this?
She’s a little…well… there’s just no easy
way to say this folks - my mom is weird. I mean this in a most
loving way of course, and if you knew my mother, you’d know
that she laughed her butt off when she read this column. In all
her weirdness, she feels it’s the rest of US who are the
strange ones. It’s no surprise that my mom, Philomena, born
January 28th, has her Sun in Aquarius – the sign that revels
in eccentricity and innovation.
Now that I’ve got your attention about Aquarians, allow me
to elaborate. Aquarius, a fixed air sign, is ruled by the planet
Uranus. Uranus is all about breaking the rules, daring to go where
the rest of us wouldn’t even have the vision to see and then
revolutionizing itself towards its own new utopia. Thanks to Uranus,
Aquarius has no qualms about being different – in fact they
embrace their uniqueness and wear it as a badge of honor.
Let me give you an example. My childhood was, for the most part,
the typical, traditional upbringing. Until you factored in my mother
and her interests that is. In the 1970’s and early 80’s
while most of the other moms were baking cookies, watching soaps
and attending PTA meetings, my mother was sitting at our kitchen
table with a pack of cigarettes and a pot of coffee reading all about
reincarnation, angels and faith healing, and teaching herself numerology.
She used to go around the house yapping about how her eldest daughter
(that’s me) might become a nun because my numbers were so spiritually
inclined (no…that prediction didn’t work out folks!).
When I boldly told her at age 12 that I was NOT going to join the
convent, she insisted I would be some kind of spiritual healer. Back
then, I’d just roll my eyes and laugh. It was just my mom,
being strange as usual. But now I reconsider; was it Aquarian vision
instead?
When I was 13 she became interested in the Ouija Board and would
be the “cool” mother who invited mine and my sister’s
friends over for board game séances. That is, until she became
convinced that a spirit was trying to possess me one night and threw
out the board, forbidding any of us to ever use one again. It must
have been one of her Uranian flashes of insights. Or was it the eccentric
unpredictable nature of Aquarius? As you can see, the line is thinly
drawn and sometimes so transparent it’s impossible to know.
As far as appearances go, my mother never fit in. She was certainly
an undisputed beauty by anyone’s standards (her own mother
did some modeling). Yet she always walked her own path when it came
to fashion or feminine mystique. One her wedding day, she wore only
chapstick and has hated wearing makeup for as long as I can remember.
But in typical Uranian fashion, my mother, at age 54, decided to
get in touch with her feminine side and can probably be found at
a local nail salon near you. The lesson here is that you can NEVER
tell what an Aquarian will do next. They are as unpredictable and
electric as a bolt of lightning.
But with all this quirkiness, Aquarians have another layer to their
persona. They have a co-ruler by the name of Saturn. This basically
means that even though they insist on doing things their own way
with absolute freedom, it’s far too easy for an Aquarian to
become restricted by their own, self imposed limitations. Recognize
this because its important .In fact, I believe it’s the key
to understanding this complicated sign. While it’s true that
an Aquarian will never follow anyone else’s rules and will
be the first to revolutionize, it’s also true that at the very
same time, they are fixed and stuck – feeling somehow bound
to their own, very specific and rigid set of self imposed “rules” to
live by.
Let’s explore this further by considering that Aquarius is
also a fixed air sign. Fixed means that they are intent on keeping
things as they are and I know I just told you that Aquarius is all
about being “different” so are you confused yet? Do you
see the inherent schism in this sign? They must maintain their security
somehow, but the only way an Aquarian can do this is by rigidly following
the rules that they set because they can never find security in another
person’s restrictions. It must be their own!
And remember the air. Aquarians are very intellectual signs – often
living in their heads. They operate from logic and reasoning rather
than from feeling. This is why they have a reputation for being so
remote and distant from another person’s perspective. While
it’s true that Aquarius is the sign of friendship, it’s
more often the casual acquaintance and the “hello/goodbye” relationship
this sign is more comfortable with rather than emotional intensity.
The reasoning capability is astounding with this sign and you will
find an Aquarian rationalize the most insane behavior at times. The
other side of the coin is that you will also find a vision in Aquarians
that can truly be ahead of our time. So while I may joke about the
eccentricity of all you Aquarians, please know it is only to illustrate
your breadth.
Revolution is the name of Aquarius’ game. Anyone whose life
is touched by an Aquarian will certainly be the recipient of unpredictability,
innovation and constant re-orientation. But change, after all, is
supposed to be a good thing. Just ask any Aquarius about the virtue
of re-inventing yourself and I’m sure they’ll agree.
I know my mom would.
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